He went to sleep around 8:30 last night and slept until 4:15 this morning (It’s 4:45 am now). He’s had a bottle and is now happily playing on the floor with all of his new toys.
Our day yesterday was a bit different than we had expected. We met in the hotel lobby at 6:30 am and headed to the orphanage. Once there we presented our gifts. About five minutes later they handed us our little dudes, the other couple is also adding a boy to the family, and we then had the heart wrenching experience of watching the nannies say goodbye. It was sweet and horrific all at the same time. Beckett’s main caregiver was clearly grief stricken. She desperately wanted to hold him one last time, but when I offered him to her she knew she would fall completely apart if she took him so she declined. When you think about orphanage care it is easy to assume that is it too regimented and efficient to be loving, but that is not the case at the Vinh Long center. The women who work there are incredibly caring and have unimaginably difficult jobs. They meet these children and care for them with love, all the while knowing that a day will come when they will leave, and in most cases they will never hear from them or see them again. Admirable. So, once the sob fest had subsided, we were told to take the kids and get on the van. Unexpected event, part one. We had assumed that someone from the center would meet us at the G&R with the babies, but they had us take them instead. Woo hoo!
Once at the local Justice Department, we were seated in a room for happy events. When we arrived a gentleman came in a flipped the sign on the wall around. We asked what it said. One side says “adoption ceremony” and the other side says “marriage ceremony”. I don’t know why I thought the G&R process would be swift, but I did. Unexpected event part two… the whole shebang took over 3 hours. Good grief! To be fair, the ceremony itself was closer to thirty minutes, but the rest of the time was spent waiting while they check and rechecked our paperwork. Sure, it was mildly annoying, but we’d rather know that our papers are correct than rush through and have mistakes. The nice thing is that both of the babies did great. They played and napped and didn’t cry or even fuss for the entire 3 and a half hours.
After things were finished and we were declared his legal parents we boarded the van for the three hour drive and headed straight back to HCMC. Beckett was exhausted and slept for over an hour of the trip. Once back at the hotel we continued getting acquainted. The little dude LOVES checking out his reflection in the mirror. He squeals and giggles when he sees himself. So cute. He does a modified army crawl, but with more of a snake like motion. He shakes his feet and rocks back and forth when he is excited. He hasn’t cried much, but he doesn’t like water, and would prefer not to be put in his back unless it is his idea. In my completely unprofessional opinion, I would say he is showing some early attachment signs, which is fantastic. He makes lots of eye contact and he is constantly checking to make sure we are both still around. When Ken left to meet on of the Dillon staffers for a quick meeting last night, Beckett teared up and was sad about Ken leaving the room. When he is upset he is very receptive to comforting, and they fussing usually subsides quickly. All good signs. Here’s hoping the trend continues.
Today is a free day, but we were asked to stay near the hotel just in case we were needed. We plan to go across the street to the Saigon Tax Center’s awesome grocery store (it’s like a mini Wal-mart if you will) and pretty much expect to play with the boy in the room for most of the day.
I’ll leave you with a video of giggling at the baby in the mirror. Hopefully you’ll be able to hear Beckett’s laugh… it is too cute!